Why I Think Kids Aren't For Me
The clock is ticking. We could just wait it out. We can always adopt older kids or foster kids or babysit from time to time if we ever[y] settle in future.- In 12 Months
I love kids. But the thought of having my own leaves me squeamish. Ermm.
Call me selfish and I probably, rather, most certainly am. But the child
bearing stage in itself is enough to scare me out of my wits. Not to mention
the nine months that immediately precede it. It's heavy, it can drive you
emotionally insane at times, and you will be feeling awful for a majority of
the period you're carrying IT. I'm being realistic not being negative. Your
time will not be your own. Your stuff will not be your own. Your resources will
be expended for their benefit. Their interests will precede yours. See? Its an
instant heart check for selfishness which I am definitely not passing as this
essay progresses.
But this decision isn't up to me alone. Although the world does encourage
women to have the veto power here since it is after all OUR bodies. But I'm
going against this grain of thought. In the past, it has always been a struggle
for me to submit to being "controlled". But said thought pattern has
been changed in the past couple of years. I now view submission as humility and
esteeming the other person better than you. Not because you are inferior and he
is superior though. But because you love that person. If that person loves you
and God as well, humility will also be the by product and harmonious and
peaceful relations the daily goal. Thus, I do believe that the decision lies best in the triumvirate relationship between husband, wife, and God.
I love kids. But the thought of having my own leaves me squeamish. Ermm.
Call me selfish and I probably, rather, most certainly am. But the child
bearing stage in itself is enough to scare me out of my wits. Not to mention
the nine months that immediately precede it. It's heavy, it can drive you
emotionally insane at times, and you will be feeling awful for a majority of
the period you're carrying IT. I'm being realistic not being negative. Your
time will not be your own. Your stuff will not be your own. Your resources will
be expended for their benefit. Their interests will precede yours. See? Its an
instant heart check for selfishness which I am definitely not passing as this
essay progresses.
But this decision isn't up to me alone. Although the world does encourage
women to have the veto power here since it is after all OUR bodies. But I'm
going against this grain of thought. In the past, it has always been a struggle
for me to submit to being "controlled". But said thought pattern has
been changed in the past couple of years. I now view submission as humility and
esteeming the other person better than you. Not because you are inferior and he
is superior though. But because you love that person. If that person loves you
and God as well, humility will also be the by product and harmonious and
peaceful relations the daily goal. Thus, I do believe that the decision lies best in the triumvirate relationship between husband, wife, and God.
The
clock is ticking. We could just wait it out. We can always adopt older
kids or foster kids or babysit from time to time if we every settle in
future. - See more at:
http://in12months.com/should-i-have-kids/#sthash.Y9eKmzq4.dpuf
The
clock is ticking. We could just wait it out. We can always adopt older
kids or foster kids or babysit from time to time if we every settle in
future. - See more at:
http://in12months.com/should-i-have-kids/#sthash.Y9eKmzq4.dpuf
The
clock is ticking. We could just wait it out. We can always adopt older
kids or foster kids or babysit from time to time if we every settle in
future. - See more at:
http://in12months.com/should-i-have-kids/#sthash.OQ28XWEl.dpuf
The
clock is ticking. We could just wait it out. We can always adopt older
kids or foster kids or babysit from time to time if we every settle in
future. - See more at:
http://in12months.com/should-i-have-kids/#sthash.OQ28XWEl.dpuf
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